人的一生，多少還是留一點給自己比較好。余靜(柯佳嬿 飾) Make yourself a priority once in a while. It’s not selfish. It’s necessary.
你的情歌 Your Love Song
導演 安竹間 Director Andrew Chien
電影心得 Thoughts after watching movie
「你的情歌」這部電影上映時我剛考完學測，也剛過完年，因此想要用這篇電影紀念一下時光的飛逝。當時肺炎正嚴重，和高中社團朋友一起去高雄大遠百看，會選擇「你的情歌」是由於這部電影是用音樂作為主軸，各種好聽的音樂譜出每個人不同的人生樂章。接下來我將用三篇的文章分享我對於三位主角的故事的感觸與想法，雖然這是有愛情成分的電影，但我比較注重在三位主角面對挫折和困難時的面對、解決及處理態度和方法。
李東朔 謝博安 飾
阿東在學校非常孤僻，從小雙親亡故，最摯愛的阿嬤又離開人世，這些大大的傷口深深印在他的生命中。在邢老師帶領樂團「七月男孩」練習時，他也常常陷入低潮或產生對自己不自信的想法，因為他害怕現在擁有的友誼、情誼和成就感，會不會跟小時候的雙親、長大的阿嬤一樣，最後會消失，對於要不要繼續唱歌，因為這些陰影讓他有恐懼。可是這時，余老師卻告訴阿東
‘’ 我希望你不要為了別人定義的目標去努力。你很會唱歌，但是你也可以說你不要。我希望你不要花太多代價才明白，人的一生，多少還是留一點給自己比較好。’’
從小到大，我們花了多少時間和精力在追求所謂的「成功」，但我們卻鮮少去回想，這些追求，是我們自己想要的，還是只是照著大人們或其他人的想法去做? 而遇到失敗時，我們是對自己負責，還是因為聽從別人命令的關係去做，所以責怪到他人身上? 余老師面對前未婚夫劈腿的傷痛，發現自己為了滿足對方已經失去太多，便告訴阿東這個余靜自己太晚才領悟的道理，希望阿東可以趁還有機會時好好把握，不要在未來感到後悔。
自己，會是唯一陪著自己走到人生盡頭的人。
做一個有主見、為自己著想而且勇於做自己的人非常重要，我知道在這個漸漸和他人連結變多的世界，需要的是越來越多的社交或相處，甚至越來越多要滿足的目標或標準。我自己的想法是，不管如何，一定要為自己保留一點點時間與空間做自己，做一個真實、放鬆的自己，有人說:「做自己非常重要，不然你好像也做不好其他事了」。很諷刺但是也很實際的話，我們不可能在每個方面十全十美，可是我們卻可以讓自己成為自己喜歡的完美的樣子。講實話，我知道自己有時候很孤僻、不太愛講話和聊天，但我不會為了交更多朋友，更多或許沒有那麼喜歡或合拍的朋友，而犧牲這個真實的自己，因為我很愛很愛自己。
其實不是只有在人際關係，身為學生，在選學校、選科系時，我們不免會被身邊的長輩建議，選擇父母想要的科系在台灣很常發生，但那些科系卻不一定真的是學生自己想要的。因此我們需要在有限的能力上，學習留一點機會和空間給自己，多為自己想一點。
I have watched this movie, ‘’Your Love Song’’, with my senior friends last year after finished my General Scholastic Ability Test. At the same time, the COVID-19 was also serious that time. In order to commemorate the flying time, the movie full of music attract me want to share thoughts of ways these three characters facing difficulties and frustrations after watching it.
Dong, played by Eason Hsieh
Dong had a big and deep scar in his heart. While his parents passed away in his childhood and grandma also left him. And Dong often felt pressure when practicing band led by teacher Xing. He had dreaded of losing lovers and any good things. The time he suspected whether keep singing, the music teacher, Yu, had reminded him that
‘’ In my opinion, not always pursuit the goal others wanted. You could also reject to sing even you were actually talented. I hoped you won’t know it too late that it was better to think of yourself sometimes. ‘’
It is common for students pursuing achievements that were adults wanted. However, we seldom consider those goals were really we wanted or just the adults’ expectation. And after we failed, do we blame our failures to others because they made the decision to us? While Yu had known that she had paid and changed too much in order to assort her fiancé’s expectation. That is, she told Dong her savvy to him and hope him can take care of himself more in early ages.
We selves are the only one who stay with us into the end of the life.
It is always important to be a person who has independent opinion. Although the growing society makes more connections between individuals and groups, we should still retain a square of room in our life to let us face the true self. For instance, sometimes I prefer to stay alone and often makes myself a withdrawn. However, it doesn’t affect me to be scare of losing friends because of my preference. We should love ourselves more and be a perfect person in our own standards.
While not only in relationship, students in Taiwan often choose university or departments by adapting adults’ suggestions. It is pity that those departments might not be our love ones. Accordingly, making great efforts in limited ability to make decisions by ourselves is such an important thing.
