女孩,那些強加解釋的標籤都不屬於妳,甚至風吹就會掉,千萬,不要撿起來再往身上貼,因為妳是那麼的耀眼。 Hey girls, those tags which were pasted on you reluctantly were not belonged to you, they would fall once the wind blows. Never and never pick it up and past on yourselves again as you are as bright as the sun after all.

Kris
7 min readMar 5, 2021

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比鬼故事更可怕的是你我身邊的故事

Those ordinary daily stories are more horrible than ghost stories.

少女老王

媒體叢林裡的槍林彈雨

第三個大主題講述職場上女性非常不被公平有禮待遇的故事,雖然我還沒出社會,但我也在這些職場故事中被觸動出一些經驗或是想法。「我本來就沒有什麼都想要」講述職場上的性騷擾被公司忽略、造成大量女性受害者想要躲避也無法可躲,甚至還會被加害者針對,在會議上不斷製造干擾,作者在會議上大力反擊,讓整個公司不得不正視這個歪風,並且瀟灑離開這間糟糕的公司。

別以為搞小團體在群組罵人只有出現在幼稚的學生時期,到了職場上將近半百的社會人士,也仍舊會做出這些小動作。「我們明明都是人」的主角,因為在該家媒體業看到了藐視人命、發死人財、想要放死者家屬照片衝新聞點閱流量,那些噁心的媒體人的嘴臉,在忍無可忍之時質問主管為甚麼這麼沒有人性,卻因此在主管群組被講壞話。主角霸氣的離開這間公司,因為明明大家都是人,為甚麼要這麼自私、連最基本的憐憫都捨不得拿出來。

“在逐漸失衡的世界,本就沒有什麼事是可以一直美好、一直雙贏,我只能優先選擇了自己最想保持完整的一部分。就算我有四百個哥哥、就算你是長官、就算我穿短褲、就算你喝到爛醉、就算我當下只是委婉拒絕、就算你認為你自己只是關心,都不代表你可以對我的身體、性別、年齡、職位或是意識可以恣意妄為。 — 我本來就沒有什麼都想要 ”

“在每一個團體,我們多少得藏起自己最真實的一面,察言觀色的活著,但當你覺得事情似乎漸漸走向不對勁,邏輯跟合法性也漸漸站不住腳的時候,你第一件事想到的是自己,還是那個「在人群中的自己」呢? — 我們明明都是人”

女生不要那麼粗魯、女生要注意形象一點、女生不要在外面這樣很危險……一句句看似關心女孩們的語句,其實無形中成為了框架這這個世代女孩翅膀的枷鎖。高中念女校的我在到了大學後,一個男生居多的大學,只在短短半學期就看到了很多很多值得深思的事情。就講喝酒這件事,誰的大學沒有幾個瘋狂的夜店,沒有夜店也好歹去過酒吧或和同學在宿舍喝過酒,多多少少遇過喝醉的同學們,但光是喝醉這小事,就有很明顯的男女差異。

如果只是男生喝醉發酒瘋,我們只會覺得他很好笑、很蠢,但若是換成女生,卻會有男生無意間表示出:他不想要這樣不檢點、不珍惜自己的女生當女朋友。或許他不是故意的,但不得不說,這的確可以代表至少一半以上的男生的想法,甚至含有女生也會這樣認為。喝醉的女生常常出事而被報導在社會頭版,加害者通常為男性,塑造成當眾喝醉的女生會很危險的形象,但路邊喝醉的男生其實也很危險,只是因為沒有被報導的談資,總是被忽略。

我們不可能用真誠的心對待他人卻要對方同樣真誠的回應我們,但現在才19歲的我只能盡可能在可以接受的範圍內做自己、成為自己想要成為的人,然後尊重那些對自己有意見的人的想法,並且保護自己的安全。女孩,不要被社會那些有色眼鏡框架住,自己知道自己在做什麼就好,因為我們是那麼的美好、那麼值得被喜歡的,我們沒有一定需要誰的肯定,但我們非常需要好好愛自己。

Battles in the jungle of media industries.

Although I have not had job, I gained some thoughts in the 3rd topic and stories in it. ‘’ I Don’t Want Everything ‘’ talked about the storied of sexual harassment in the company and the protagonist of this story who had counterattacked successfully. It occurred that in the world which slowly lose balance, there is nothing can always keep perfect or win-win. We should protect what we want to keep it perfect when facing harassment or other obstacles.

We sometimes think criticize other person is a childish behavior. Whereas there might appeared in workplaces. The protagonist was disappointed to manager about her cruel thinking that they wanted more casualty and sad pictures in order to gain high click rate. By knowing that she was gossiped by the manager in other group, she left the media industry without any hesitation. Because in life we unavoidable to hide the rue face in front of everyone, but when the situation deviates the moral and laws, we have to think to present the true self or the hoped face to the world.

I have seen the phenomenon of gender differentiation in university life. For instance, almost every college student has experiences of drinking alcohol. When boys drunk, we just ridiculing him and think he is stupid. While the girls are much more different, drunk girl might make boys don’t want to pursue her as girlfriend because he considers her irregularities. Moreover, news often report drunk girls will face dangers and neglect boys.

It dawned on me that we treat other in true heart but we can not ask them treat us back in the same true hearts. Hence, though I am only 19, I tell myself to be myself and respect the words by other people, while the most important is protect myself. We girls should not be limited by the social expectation because it is more precious that we know what we are doing. We don’t need anyone’s love but we have to love ourselves because we are so perfect to be liked.

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