人們說傷痛使人成長，但真正讓我們成長的，卻是療癒的過程。 People says pain helps us grow; but actually, all the growing happens as we heal. — Lesson from movies
你的情歌Your Love Song
導演 安竹間 Director Andrew Chien
電影心得 Thoughts after watching the movie
對於阿東來說，親人使他對於擁有感到恐懼的原因，而余靜則是因為愛人的背叛，讓她到花蓮重新找到一個值得被愛的療癒方法。
余靜 柯佳嬿 飾
到花蓮這個慢活的城市逃離在台北的傷痛，余靜在感情上遭受前未婚夫的背叛，卻在認識邢老師與阿東這群人後，走出傷痛，放開煞車，踩著油門走向幸福。雖然在電影中阿東與邢老師都有跟余靜告白，在後段劇情中，余靜出車禍前傳的簡訊與打的電話，因為阿東與邢老師同時接起與查看簡訊，所以不知道是打給誰，但在醫院時兩人是同時出現的。而最後結局余靜帶著兒子在海邊玩耍，阿東到台北發展，邢老師留在花蓮辦教育。
“ 一腳踩著油門，一腳踩著煞車，車子是不會動的。 ”
由黃嘉千特別演出的心理諮商師告訴余靜這句話，她明白余靜想要往前，卻又不自覺困在過去的情緒，因此送了她這句話。我們常常認為成長是因為體驗了挫折與失敗，了解甚麼是正確的、甚麼是對自己好的後，在下一次的選擇中避開上次的錯誤，做了對自己好的選擇，我們平常稱之為成長；不過「你的情歌」卻是說出，在挫折與傷痛中，因為我們在療癒、修正與治療自己，這個過程中我們會將自己修復的更完整、更美好，所以我們在療癒的過程中，不知不覺的成長。
有時候不是只學著解決問題，而是學習去面對它
我非常感謝我媽媽一件事，就是讓我學鋼琴和長笛。這兩個樂器帶給我的收穫不只是音樂方面的才藝，影響我最深的是「面對問題」與「身處挫折」時的心態與能力。在學習音樂時多數人會在前期經歷瓶頸期，怎麼練習都練不好，最容易感到挫折與灰心，我媽媽在這段時期都有陪著我練習，鼓勵我，在我艱難地走出瓶頸後，我徹底愛上音樂，任何難易度和風格的曲子都難不倒我，我願意去詮釋每一首不同的樂曲。
這些經驗也可以套用在念書上，(因為是學生，所以能舉的例子多半與唸書有關)，而我現在參加的社團是動力機械學系的機器人社(之後會有文章分享!!)，在面對新的知識、新的技術和挑戰時，我很容易緊張、自我貶低或是懷疑，不過我總是套用學音樂時的經驗:在遇到挫折或失敗時，想盡辦法不要放棄，每一個困難的解決方式不進相同，可是只要願意面對，願意「待在困境中」，就會讓自己不知不覺得到一些能力，這些能力就會讓自己在最後變得更好、更棒。
或許和余靜面對的傷痛不一樣，可是我覺得余靜的故事告訴我，像是解決挫折一樣，在挫折後我們會成長，就跟療癒後變得更好的自己相同，是因為我們「在過程中」修復、得到能力，讓自己最後變得比一開始更好。
For Dong, the reason made him be afraid of pursuit dreams was the departure of family; Jing had escaped to Hualien to fine the new method that let her has a worth to be loved after be betrayed by lover.
Jing Yu played by Ko Chia-yen
Jing had experienced betraying by her ex-fiancé, she escaped to Hualien and met Dong and teacher Xing. They brought her new version to the world. While they both felt in love with her, near the end of the movie, they both received messages and phone call as the scene that Jing sent message and call someone before the car accident that made her abortion. Jing finally had a boy, Dong pursuit his dream in Taipei and teacher Xing had kept holding education projects in Hualien.
“The car won’t move if you step the break and accelerator at the same time. “
The counselor played by Phoebe Huang told Jing these words as she knew that Jing wanted to start a new life but stuck in past. While we often consider that we grow because of the pain or obstacles we suffered by observing our defects and shortcomings, and we do better decisions next time can prevent mistakes; we actually become better in the process of conquering difficulties in the ways we heal, improve and that will make a better us. The latter was this movie wanted to tell us.
Not only solve problems but learn how to face them as well.
As for the way of facing problems, I would give my mother a great appreciation of staying beside me when I met obstacles of learning the piano and flute. The result of my love to music was the reason that as I facing the common problem which almost every student learned music face, my mother never gave up me while stayed beside me patiently to encourage me to cross those barriers.
Though I am a student that can share thoughts of studying and my club in DIT Robotics, I use same tip when facing new knowledges and skills. I always tell myself no matter what happens, use any way to force myself face the problem even though I often suspect and look down myself. Only can I “staying in the difficulty “I would gain some abilities and experiences finally and grow up.
Perhaps those stories I experienced were different from Jing, I consider that like healing pains, we must be a better us after we fixing us and get some new skills during the process of solving difficulties gradually.
